Over the years, members of the heterosexual community worked at the forefront of so-called “marriage reforms.” Women treated as property with no inheritance or property rights. No fault divorce. Quick divorce. Polygamy. La Casa Grande. La Casa Bonita. Man – wife – mistress. Open marriage. Marriage as companionship first, with reproduction and the needs of children put in a position of lesser importance.
My view -- for the record -- is that many of these reforms really were corruptions.
As one state and then another legalized same gender marriage, as the Supreme Court declared the central assumptions of the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional, as the critics wrung their hands and bemoaned the whole state of American culture, I myself wondered what these critics thought of the “earlier” reforms and if they thought they were good or bad. After no fault divorce, the gender arrangement of marriage is not such a big step forward or backward.
In the wake of the Supreme Court rulings favoring same gender marriage, in the climate of reassessing and retrenchment, NewRightAscension presents in this Frank Adult Essay, 6 questions and answers about Same Gender Marriage and What it Will Do in the Long View of 21st and 22nd Centuries Relationships, legal or otherwise, moral or otherwise.
1 HOW MANY SAME GENDER MARRIAGES ARE POSSIBLE IN AMERICA?
This is a country based on the free market. It will do as many as the market will bear.
However, we should keep in mind the statistic / census facts of gender-preference.
Determining the population of gay Americans proves hard from both a political and census viewpoint. Anti gay activists want to assume that 5 percent or less of the population prefers sex “that way.” Gay activists want to assume that 10 percent or more of the population prefers sex “our way.” Politics again gets in the way of accuracy.
If America has 320 million people, this translates to 16 -32 million people whose. This minority is about double the size of active Mormons in America.
For a start, some of these people will not want to get married or to produce children at all. Homosexuality is not heterosexuality done by men-men or women-women.
Next, some will prefer to have relationships in a collection, not in a pair.
Next, in the heterosexual community, many people have wanted to get married but never quite found the right person to marry and thus remained single. The homosexual community has even less choices available and less options: forced singleness will happen in it as well.
In summary, the actual numbers and percentages of gay marriages will always be low compared to the overall totals of traditional man-woman marriage. 5 - 10 percent at best on any given year.
2 WHAT CAN THE HISTORY OF THE LDS INDIAN PLACEMENT PROGRAM TEACH US ABOUT SAME GENDER MARRIAGE?
From the 1947 to 1990, an Indian Placement program in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints moved native American children off reservations and into foster homes – typical Utah - Idaho - Arizona white Mormons – for public education. Some children in the program thrived and benefited from the experience; however, but many of these children found themselves in a gray existence, not exactly white and not exactly Indian. The program scarred them spiritually and emotionally.
Homosexuality is not heterosexuality done by guys. Or women, for that matter. Gay persons who find themselves unhappily married and with children could find themselves in a social box they do not fit.
3 WILL LARGE NUMBERS OF HETEROSEXUAL MEN PREFER TO MARRY A MAN – WHETHER HE IS STRAIGHT OR GAY?
Depends on the definition of “large.” This unusual question deserves an answer, given widespread practice in the last fifteen years of bromance [ brother romance / boy romance / bros ] among heterosexual and bisexual men. People in general get married at older ages. College education can take upwards of 4-7 years. This mean among young guys, living with other men or another man for several years happens more and more often for longer periods of time.
Many regular guys spend much time with their bromantic guy friends in close proximity. Could be some of them wake up in the same bed with him after an intense guys night’s activity, and looking up close at his friend asleep wishes this could last forever. Anything is possible in the twenty-first century, given the affinity many have with open relationships and disposable marriages.
Given the intense nature of heterosexual desire, and given the wide availability of willing available women – this scenario probably will not likely happen on a wide scale. Still, who knows? It used to be that two guys who loved each other might consummate their relationship in a business partnership. Nowadays, it could be consummated in a closed or open marriage, especially if neither man has much interest in fathering or raising children.
4 WILL SAME GENDER MARRIAGE PRODUCE MORE PEOPLE WHO PREFER SAME GENDER INTIMACY?
Among couples who will adopt -- no.
Among the male couples who use their own sperm for artificial insemination in a surrogate biologic mother arrangement, the answer might be maybe – providing genetics in fact do carry same-gender preferences.
The whole business of gender preference gets unfortunately complicated if we look into it too deeply. Homosexual men have reproduced for time immemorial – and have produce heterosexual and homosexual children. Heterosexual a couple produce homosexual and heterosexual children. Homosexual couples have produced heterosexual children. At this point, the answer to this question requires further study.
5 WHAT DOES SAME GENDER MARRIAGE MEAN FOR BISEXUAL PEOPLE?
Now that the Supreme Court has broken the gender taboo in marriage, the numbers taboo in marriage will become the next taboo for social inspection. I suspect some men will lobby to have legal marriages with both a man and a woman simultaneously.
6 WHAT DOES LEGAL SAME-GENDER MARRIAGE MEAN FOR POLYGAMISTS?
The next marriage battleground will be legal numbers in marriage. To those who talk about the Bible defining traditional marriage as a man and a woman, remember this — a number of the Book’s most important figures had several wives. So traditional Biblical marriage is also a man and a woman and a woman and a woman and a woman and a . . .
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